Why people must quarrel huh?...
I am back from no where. Just that i had not been updating my blog for quite some time liao. Usually i will only update whenever i had something to share, be it some photos or even a thought.
Anyway, I had a little chat with a female friend, lets call her S yesterday morning on msn. I had just arrived home from midnight shift duty and was having breakfast at that time. The conversation starts very normal with her making fun of my nick i put on msn. So we teased each other abit. Then she start to comment abit about another friend of ours, lets call him H. She said she is kinda of dislike him recently cos he always put on a black face and complained he is tired whenever we went out together. Actually H know S through his ex-GF, lets call her Y. I know S and Y cos H and Y want to introduce a girl to me hoping that we somehow get together. Haha. Sound like matchmaking. Anyway, back to the story. As Y was H ex, H somehow is still very concern about Y well being. As Y and S are both good friends and are both art students, their thinking about many of the things are quite strange to H and me. They are the so call more adverturous type. Always on the ball to try out new things. Thus they never stay on a job for long. They spend most of their earning on KTVs on weekend (more expensive), taking taxi from point to point. Even when they are running out of money, they will still insist on having fun going out and spend cos they think that this is how life should be. Y is slightly better than S where from what i can see, she at least know that she need to secure a job and work hard on it and at least save some money while S is more on on reverse side. S now is back on her relieve teacher job and actually urge Y to quit her current job and join her (Y work in a advertising company, perm job) cos S was ask to quit some time back when she was still in the company and thus feel that the company is not good. But from what i understand, S frequently take MC since starting of work, late at times and sometimes didn't submit assignment on time. H know about all these and is actually quite worried about what S ask Y to do. Thus sometimes when he offer some advises, he sound negative.
Thus what S complained about yesterday morning was how she dislike H had affected Y making her very upset cos she say Y is very affected by the people around her. She say H always nagged at Y and say they had enough nagging from family and don't need more from friends. As friends, he should be supportive and not nag or discourage Y. Haha.
So when i related all the above complaints to H, he is very angry. He said S is the one affecting Y, always asking Y to join her on unreliestic things, like the job case. Actually i also don't know why S will suddenly come and tell me all these complaints. Don't she scare that i will related all these to H? Maybe thinking from another angle, she tell me all these so that she can use my mouth to tell H about it. Haha.
Anyway, i feel that relationship between people is very funny. Just take for them as example. At first, H and Y are couple. They break because Y feel under pressure as H expect Y to do better in her studies and life. Then after that, they didn't really talk to each other again. Then H went for studies overseas and after he came back, Y contacted H again saying that her sister is getting marry. From there onward, they start to go out again as friend. In the beginning, they are still on talking term. Then H came to know S cos H an to introduce a girl to me (i don't have any GF since 1 year old..haha). Thus he ask Y to introduce and Y introduce S to us. After the first 2 outing together, I find that S is not so suitable to me in term of character wise. Thus i also didn't really go out with them from then on. Then the friendship between H and Y start to turn for a worse. H was angry for certain things Y did and Y was angry for H been not supportive and always nagging at her. I guess maybe Y and S had quite a bit of discussion before and although S try to been them together again, I feel that S might be one of the reason why H and Y relationship take for a worse cos Y is very dependent on S advises. All these happened within 2 years. Haha. I figure that their relationship take for a worse because, H care too much about Y while Y and S don't like to be tied down. They feel that H should give them what they want and not decide what should want to have. What i am amuse is that they can actually smile and display all the politeness when they go out together and the next minute they are toking bad about each other behind each others back. How did they do it? Does that attitude change too fast? Very scary leh. No wonder my ears always itchy. Think alot of people talking bad behind me also.
I had actually advise H not to be over concerned about their matters. He should just advise when approached and leave it to them to make the decision as they are not kids anymore (one is 24 and another 28 liao). But always remind them to think of the consquences for their action. Also, if H is really tired to go out when they ask for outing, just reject them nicely. I think it is better than forcing himself to go out and then display his black and tired face to them. I don't think it will be present for anyone. Anyway, H had already give up on telling them too much. Haha..
Thats all for now...tata.
Anyway, I had a little chat with a female friend, lets call her S yesterday morning on msn. I had just arrived home from midnight shift duty and was having breakfast at that time. The conversation starts very normal with her making fun of my nick i put on msn. So we teased each other abit. Then she start to comment abit about another friend of ours, lets call him H. She said she is kinda of dislike him recently cos he always put on a black face and complained he is tired whenever we went out together. Actually H know S through his ex-GF, lets call her Y. I know S and Y cos H and Y want to introduce a girl to me hoping that we somehow get together. Haha. Sound like matchmaking. Anyway, back to the story. As Y was H ex, H somehow is still very concern about Y well being. As Y and S are both good friends and are both art students, their thinking about many of the things are quite strange to H and me. They are the so call more adverturous type. Always on the ball to try out new things. Thus they never stay on a job for long. They spend most of their earning on KTVs on weekend (more expensive), taking taxi from point to point. Even when they are running out of money, they will still insist on having fun going out and spend cos they think that this is how life should be. Y is slightly better than S where from what i can see, she at least know that she need to secure a job and work hard on it and at least save some money while S is more on on reverse side. S now is back on her relieve teacher job and actually urge Y to quit her current job and join her (Y work in a advertising company, perm job) cos S was ask to quit some time back when she was still in the company and thus feel that the company is not good. But from what i understand, S frequently take MC since starting of work, late at times and sometimes didn't submit assignment on time. H know about all these and is actually quite worried about what S ask Y to do. Thus sometimes when he offer some advises, he sound negative.
Thus what S complained about yesterday morning was how she dislike H had affected Y making her very upset cos she say Y is very affected by the people around her. She say H always nagged at Y and say they had enough nagging from family and don't need more from friends. As friends, he should be supportive and not nag or discourage Y. Haha.
So when i related all the above complaints to H, he is very angry. He said S is the one affecting Y, always asking Y to join her on unreliestic things, like the job case. Actually i also don't know why S will suddenly come and tell me all these complaints. Don't she scare that i will related all these to H? Maybe thinking from another angle, she tell me all these so that she can use my mouth to tell H about it. Haha.
Anyway, i feel that relationship between people is very funny. Just take for them as example. At first, H and Y are couple. They break because Y feel under pressure as H expect Y to do better in her studies and life. Then after that, they didn't really talk to each other again. Then H went for studies overseas and after he came back, Y contacted H again saying that her sister is getting marry. From there onward, they start to go out again as friend. In the beginning, they are still on talking term. Then H came to know S cos H an to introduce a girl to me (i don't have any GF since 1 year old..haha). Thus he ask Y to introduce and Y introduce S to us. After the first 2 outing together, I find that S is not so suitable to me in term of character wise. Thus i also didn't really go out with them from then on. Then the friendship between H and Y start to turn for a worse. H was angry for certain things Y did and Y was angry for H been not supportive and always nagging at her. I guess maybe Y and S had quite a bit of discussion before and although S try to been them together again, I feel that S might be one of the reason why H and Y relationship take for a worse cos Y is very dependent on S advises. All these happened within 2 years. Haha. I figure that their relationship take for a worse because, H care too much about Y while Y and S don't like to be tied down. They feel that H should give them what they want and not decide what should want to have. What i am amuse is that they can actually smile and display all the politeness when they go out together and the next minute they are toking bad about each other behind each others back. How did they do it? Does that attitude change too fast? Very scary leh. No wonder my ears always itchy. Think alot of people talking bad behind me also.
I had actually advise H not to be over concerned about their matters. He should just advise when approached and leave it to them to make the decision as they are not kids anymore (one is 24 and another 28 liao). But always remind them to think of the consquences for their action. Also, if H is really tired to go out when they ask for outing, just reject them nicely. I think it is better than forcing himself to go out and then display his black and tired face to them. I don't think it will be present for anyone. Anyway, H had already give up on telling them too much. Haha..
Thats all for now...tata.
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